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Consumption In The Time Of Recession November 9, 2008

Filed under: Budget, budgeting, consumer, lifestyle, money, new york city — ency @ 2:02 pm
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Times are tough or so every newspaper, news show, nosy neighbor, etc. says. Perhaps you’ve even begun to feel the pinch every time you go food shopping or to the gas pump – and by pinch, I don’t mean one of those light playful ones given by a lover or your football coach BUT I mean one of those hard, mean ones the 6th grade bully used to inflict on you. Err, I think you know what I’m getting at… anyway, I know that I’m worried- the live-in bf and I are both freelancers and just moved into a new rental. We have a lot more space at the new place but the rent is also $450 more a month than the old apartment. It’s a good thing that my freelance work is pretty steady – I’ve worked pretty much everyday for the past 4 years – don’t let me get into the evils of the company and why they would rather keep an army load of workers on freelance- I could go on for days.

Anyway, so the bf and I have decided to be proactive and try to slash our bills and cut back like every scared American is doing right now. But we don’t want our lifestyles to change drastically. I mean we like good food and fun… and well, consumption in general. (Don’t blame me – blame the advertisers – I’m a product of my generation and a marketer’s wet dream.) Again, anyway – I guess we want to be smarter about or spending. Less wasteful.

So, how to make small changes to our spending that make snowball into big savings? We took a long hard look at what we were spending our precious dollars on and we decided to make changes to it.

Some of the easy changes I made:

1. I changed my cell phone plan – after reviewing – I wasn’t using all my minutes – so I chose the plan that was a step down in minutes. It’s been working out just fine.

2. The bf wanted to get rid of the Netflix but I convinced him that cutting down the plan to the unlimited one at a time was the better way to go. I suppose we are really overstimulated between that, our cable (which includes HBO and Showtime), our magazine subscriptions, our books and all the crap we watch online. Heh, we may still end up closing our account later BUT Netflix lives to fight another day.

3. We’ve been eating in a lot more. At the old apartment, we were surrounded by a lot of great restaurants so, running downstairs for lunch or dinner or a snack was as easy as breathing – now, it’s a little bit of a walk to a good restaurant – and that has been helpful in forcing us to cook more. I actually do like cooking – it’s finding the time for it that is a challenge. But last week, we were able to make a few good things that also became bring to work lunches. We made my grandmother’s veggie soup, short rib curry, baked chicken, and I think we even steamed a flounder at some point. Last night, we had some friends over for hot pot. (All easy recipes to follow in the next posting.) Eating in has a number of benefits – it’s cheaper than eating out. It’s a lot healthier. And, I think my cooking skills are slowly improving. It still takes me forever to chop veggies but I’m eyeing this gadget that may change all that – which a friend gave us a 20% off coupon for.

4. So, that last sentence leads me into change number 4… coupons. There are a ton of coupons out there that will help you save a lot of money. I have found coupons on food, clothing, electronics, etc. My friend gave us a ton of coupons for Bed, Bath and Beyond. Some of the coupons have expired but Bed, Bath, and Beyond still honors them. While it’s one coupon per item, the store actually lets you use as many coupons per visit as you’d like. Cutting coupons is not fun or sexy but you’ll thank yourself when you have a few more dollars in your wallet. Dollars that can be spent somewhere else!

My best friend actually is the one who got me into thinking like a smart shopper years ago. We don’t pay full price retail for any of our clothes, bags, shoes or accessories. We live in New York City and there are sample sales every other week, discounted clothing stores (hello, Century 21 and Loehmanns), and coupons for other stores. And especially right now – retailers are desperate to get shoppers attention – so, with some good googling – you can find some great details. I actually signed up for some emails from stores – yes, I know getting their emails can be annoying at times – BUT, by signing up I was able to get an email from Club Monaco saying they were discounting a lot of their inventory to 40% off which also Neiman Marcus sent a similar email. I also got coupons for Sephora, Gap&BR&OldNavy&PiperLime, Jcrew, H&M, etc. So, it actually does pay to sign up for store announcements. And through some very stylish friends, I got forwards for a plethora of sample sales that are going on. So, don’t pay full price for it!

Anyway, that’s all my ADD brain can churn out today. I’m going to go read the NY Times… ummm, also free if read online which I have been doing for years.

 

Dealbreakers March 31, 2008

Filed under: dating, dealbreaker, lifestyle, love, relationships — ency @ 8:53 pm

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/30/books/review/Donadio-t.html?_r=1&oref=slogin

The NY Times just ran an essay about how one’s literary likings can make or break a potential relationship.   I agree. But for me the dealbreakers in my past have been about movies, music or food.  Heh, I’m lowbrow.

It seems like all the world is looking for a reason – just any reason to reject someone.  Years ago, I once went on a couple of dates with this guy – really cute and good-natured – but then, he revealed that his favorite movie of all time was Castaway.

I mean he didn’t really just like that movie- he LOVED it!  He even named his volleyball Wilson.  That was the beginning of the quick end.

We just didn’t seem to have too much in common.  He was also really dull plus had a penchant for emailing me pics of himself with his shirt off to show off his physique.  He was an athlete and pretty cut but come on- there’s only room for one vain person in a relationship and I call dibs.

Every now and then, Castaway Boy still IMs me to say hi.  He just got married to one smoking hot chick and now resides in LA.  He still has his volleyball named Wilson.  And yes, Castaway is still his favorite movie.

 

Dumb Universe January 17, 2008

Filed under: breakups, lifestyle — ency @ 10:13 am

The universe has decided that my theme song these days is Howie Day’s ‘Collide’. Why? I don’t know. Since my life lately has been going pretty swell despite a few bumps along the road to hell. But it seems everywhere I go- this song is playing in the background. It was even on this stupid tv show I was watching the other night.

Universe, what the hell are you trying to tell me?

I do get obsessed with songs (yeah, I am one of those annoying people that like to repeat a single song on their itunes) and the last time I was obsessed with this song- I was going through a bad on/off/on/off breakup. Basically, I thought I was dating a man but it turned out he was really a big piece of turd dressed in nice men’s clothing. But that’s a different story altogether.

Anyway, this song sometimes brings up unhappy memories and I would appreciate if it wasn’t playing everywhere. (Hint, hint, universe.) Esp. since I’m really, really happy these days. The current bf and I are doing really well.

But if you’re trying to tell me that turd ex is remorseful for all that he put me through and that he is now bald and fat – please just have him send a handwritten apology and photos so that I may forward it to all my friends.

Thanks.

And, should you want to play a theme song for me everywhere I go- I really do like Darth Vader’s Imperial March. It makes me feel bad ass.

 

Hello, Is Anybody Out There? January 9, 2008

Filed under: lifestyle, writing — ency @ 12:37 am
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Today was a tough day. I didn’t get something that I really, really wanted. Rejection came in the form of a general email- thank you for submitting – we received an overwhelming amount of submissions, blah fucking blah blah. I’d like to say that I tried my best BUT I can’t even say that honestly.

Have I been giving it my all? Not really. I’ve been caving in to every delicious temptation out there.

Maybe this is the slap in the face, water thrown on my face, wake up call that I need – to get my act together?

Maybe. Hopefully.

Today was a Flaming Lips’ “Yoshimi Battles The Pink Robots” repeat shuffle music night. Fight Test always wants to make me weep. And if you call me a pansy – I’ll kick you in your nuts. I swear I will.

Now while I was never Midas- I was always a lucky, lucky girl – I hope my luck hasn’t run out lately. Because that’s two rejection letters in 2008 already and it’s only day 8 of the new year.

It has to get better right?

For now, I guess all I can do is to really try harder – work harder -

Pep talks are always hardest when administered to one’s self.

“Thanks for the pep talk, Ency.”

“No problem, Ency – now get the fuck out of here and make me proud.”

 

Self-Imposed Exile From Consumerism & Materialism Planned For 2008 December 31, 2007

I’m going on a spending freeze in 2008… well, a semi-spending freeze.  That means everything but the necessities have to be free or cheap, really cheap.  This might also be a good time for me to rethink what the necessities really are.  Food, yes.  Clothes, no.  Etc.  I’m also trying to cut down entertainment expenditure.  The only way I can really think of doing this is by staying in more.   (Good thing I got all the hijinks out of my system already!)

I’m not a masochist.  I just have a lot of things I’m saving up for – trip to Turks & Caicos, family cruise, best friend’s wedding, cousin’s wedding, money for a possible move.  I’d also like to one day buy a place – seems like such a pipedream sometimes.

This is going to be a good experiment in restraint and will power.

I loaded up on cheap books at Barnes & Noble.  They’re having a huge warehouse sale online- 50 -90 % off.  All the books I bought were under $4.

And I’ve already been making great use of my local library.  The Jackson Heights library is surpisingly high tech and there are quite a few good books to be found there.    It’s not your grandmother’s library!

I also signed up for a free trial of Netflix – which btw, I will not be canceling after the two week trial period.  $16.99 a month is cheaper than a movie date for the bf and I!

Our first three dvds are:

1.  Firefly Disc 1 – it’s really good- we’re hooked

2. 2009 Lost Memories

3.  Superbad

We haven’t watched 2009 Lost Memories or Superbad yet.

I had a couple more goodies that I have to (more like want to) pay for / buy before it’s bed time for bozo on the extraneous spending.

They include:

1.  Tennis Lessons – 12 classes for $295!

2.  Hunter Boots – b/c they last forever and I hate the rain

3.  Warm High Boots – b/c I’m a wimp and can’t stand the cold

4.  Winter Coat – b/c my office mates think I’m a homeless person sometimes

After those purchases – it’s going to be lean times.  I’m not looking forward to this self-enforced exile from consumerism and materialism .  The bf gave me a sewing machine for Christmas – perhaps I’ll get really, really good at making my own clothes.  Or perhaps not.

Btw, the New York Times recently published their Critic’s Picks of Favorite Books of 2007.

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/28/books/28intro.html?em&ex=1199163600&en=78b14d676584e2a6&ei=5087%0A

 

Things I Am Currently Fascinated With… November 13, 2007

Filed under: lifestyle — ency @ 9:43 pm

1.  Popco by Scarlett Thomas

2.  Milk & Honey Pocky Sticks

3.  Lego Star Wars For Xbox 360

4.  Tennis

5.  Bento Boxes

 

Pink Floyd Crooned About It. All I Know Is I Need It. Moneyyyy. August 9, 2007

Filed under: Budget, Exercise, Fitness, budgeting, diet, lifestyle, money, new york city — ency @ 9:54 pm

I’ve always been bad about budgeting. In fact, I’ve never been able to stick to any budget that I’ve created. I’m not frugal. I’m too generous with my money. I like nice things way too much. I like eating out. I’m a walking talking consumer extradonaire and a marketer’s dream.

Well, it’s time to change my ways.

For the next few months (let’s say at least til the end of the year- so, that’s 4 months), I want to be able to save half of my monthly paycheck. My rent is about 25% of my monthly pay- which leaves me with about 25% to live on.

I think it’ll be hard but doable. That means making some sacrifices- something else that I’m not very good at. That 25% “allowance” money is going to have to cover my groceries, monthly metrocard, entertainment, etc.

So, I guess, for the next few months- I’m going to try to bring my lunch to work. I’m going to try to cook dinner at home as much as possible from Mon – Fri. Any dining out should really only take place on the weekend. Egads.

I am going to avoid stores! Or somehow build up my willpower. I need some fall/winter basics – but that’s it. Have to make a list and stick to it!

I don’t want to deny myself too much because- well, because I DON’T want to. Life is meant to be enjoyed… I just have to do it more responsibly.

Somehow in the next few months that 25% allowance is also going to have help me cover my half of a new imac- a small engagement party I’m throwing for one of my best friends, a camping trip- oh, and we’re making dinner for one of the bf’s best buds and his wife this weekend. Not to mention next week’s trip to Cape May. Raw roh, Shaggy!

I am in desperate need of a new bikini for the trip. Why does such small scraps of fabric cost sooo much? Most of the stores only have odds and ends of swim wear. I couldn’t find any matching tops and bottoms at a bargain price at any of the usual stores.

So, it’s either shell out some big bucks for a bikini or somehow lose some weight to fit in the ones I already have. They’re a little too snug.

Guess who’s going to be dieting and working out like mad in the next week?

How the hell am I going to throw a nice engagement party on a budget?! I’m not crafty!

I need to figure out how to earn some extra dollars!

 

Nike Half-Marathon August 6, 2007

The bf and a friend ran in the Nike Half Marathon today. I dragged myself out of bed at 7 am to hopefully get a glimpse of them at the last cheering point. It was a weird experience. I’m not usually a sentimental person- but seeing the marathoners pass and hearing the sideline cheerers- made me a little teary eyed. I mean, it’s a huge feat – to run 13 miles?! All these people pushing their bodies to go, go, go!

I can’t do it. Well, not yet. I was inspired by all the runners today. And esp. by the beau. He’s crazy though- he only started training in the past three weeks. But he did awesome.

After that I took the marathoners out for a breakfast for champions at Elvie’s. Elvie’s serves Filipino fare. I had longanisa (yummy sausage), fruit salad (a fruit ambrosia), pancit (rice noodles) and pork sinagog (a vinegary soup). It was all pretty good. The pancit was a little flavorless but usually it’s pretty tasty. I could have probably flavored it up a bit with hot sauce but I was super lazy today. Reaching across the table to grab the hot sauce would have expended too much energy.

I was hoping to have some of their bbq’d chicken wings and lumpia shanghai (eggrolls!) but they weren’t ready yet.

I know why the bf is exhausted but why am I so tired? I must have sympathetic marathoner’s fatigue.

Elvie’s turo-turo
214 1st Ave, New York 10009
Btwn 12th & 13th St

 

Daily Soup, Tossed Salads, Snicker, and Snickers August 2, 2007

Filed under: diet, food, foodie, lifestyle, midtown, new york city, restaurants — ency @ 1:41 am

Lunch today was a big salad from Daily Soup. My coworkers kept commenting on how big the bowl was. That comment later morphed into “my, what big balls you have”. And that later launched a discussion about “brown eyes”. I don’t know- sometimes my team gets too much sugar into their systems.

(If you have no idea what I’m talking about- congratulations- you’re a better person than I am.)

Anyway, Daily Soup is fantastic. They toss salads. (Not a snicker, please.) You choose your own ingredients and they toss (cough) it for you.

I had a mixed green salad with endamame, cubes of tofu, cheddar cheese, and tomatoes – all coated with a roasted garlic dressing. The dressing’s base was olive oil – not creamy.

I wanted to get a cup of Italian Wedding Soup too BUT they were out of it. That’s my favorite soup from there. They were also the first place that I ever went to that sold Lion Bars. Lion Bars are possibly the best candy bars in the world. They’re like a cross between a Snicker’s bar and a Kit Kat I think. It’s possibly the best thing out of the UK besides scones + clotted cream and shepherd’s pie. Oh and maybe TopShop.

Btw, one day I will remember to take photos of things- although I’m more literal than visual.

 

Shake Shack and The Last Days Of Meat? July 31, 2007

Filed under: diet, food, foodie, lifestyle, new york city, restaurants, shake shack — ency @ 11:18 pm

I had dinner at Shake Shack tonight with some friends. We waited for half an hour on line to order. And then it was about another half hour before our food was ready? Worth it? You bet.

I skipped the cheeseburger tonight but ogled my friend’s. It looked juicy. He said it was and more. He said it was flavorful and cooked perfectly. We split a Chicago Dog. I’ve never had a Chicago Dog before. I enjoyed every bite of it. The hot peppers were a little too hot for me but the cucumber made up for it.

I also had my own Taxi Dog. That’s probably my favorite thing at the Shake Shack. The sweet onion sauce over sauerkraut were the perfect sweet & sour combination on my tongue. Parts of the hotdog tasted a teensy bit salty but that didn’t stop me from chowing the whole thing down.

I also had bites of my friend’s ’shroom burger- fried to a perfection with surprise cheesy goodness inside. I mean, I know the cheese is in there but every time I have it- it’s like a nice surprise- a party in my mouth. = )

The shake she had was quite tasty too.

I think this may be my last Shake Shack meal for awhile. I’m sorta of inspired to eat healthier. One of my friends looked amazing. She was fit and thin. She told me that she’s been detoxing and hasn’t had any meat for a couple of weeks now.

She eats a lot of tofu and seafood and salad instead. She said she may add on chicken at some point but doesn’t want to eat any other meat. She noticed that the past couple of weeks- not only does she look great but she feels great too.

Hmmm. I’m impressionable. I wanna be like Mike. I want to be fit, healthy and feel great. I ‘m naturally sort of thin. But definitely not fit. And these past few months of food splurging has definitely made my clothes tighter – but on the plus side- I have my boobs back! Yay. But I guess I’d rather be healthy.

Maybe I’ll give the tofu diet a gung ho try. Maybe at least during the work week? I don’t know… I heart food.